PRIMED for ADHD Podcast with Andrea Toole
If you’re a woman in midlife with ADHD, you’re in the right place.
This podcast will inform you, challenge the way you see yourself and your brain, and remind you that ADHD doesn’t have to control your life.
As a coach, I believe in practical, personalized action.
Through my PRIMED™ framework, I help my clients create strategies that are meaningful, realistic, and sustainable.
While I often speak directly to high-achieving women in midlife, the insights and tools I share are relevant for adults with ADHD at every stage of life.
Because ADHD isn’t about doing more, it’s about building a life for your racing brain, not against it, so it’s easier to be accountable.
As an ADHD coach and educator, I help women take charge of their ADHD, instead of feeling like it’s running the show.
I help women who are ready to stop using ADHD as an excuse. It’s a reason, not an excuse.
PRIMED for ADHD Podcast with Andrea Toole
How to talk about your ADHD diagnosis
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Deciding whether to talk about your ADHD diagnosis can feel surprisingly complicated, especially in midlife.
This episode is about treating disclosure as a strategic decision, not a confession.
Whether your ADHD is formally diagnosed or self-identified, the questions tend to be the same:
- Who do you tell?
- What do you share?
- When does it make sense?
- Why disclose at all?
- And how do you say it in a way you don’t regret later?
In this episode, I walk through:
- Why disclosure is not a one-size-fits-all decision
- How power dynamics affect when and where it’s safe or useful to share
- The six questions that clarify disclosure decisions: who, what, when, where, why, and how
- example scripts for work, family, and friends
- Why don’t have to decide once and for all
This conversation is designed to help you feel more confident in trusting your own judgment, rather than reacting under pressure or defaulting to oversharing or silence.
Companion checklist:
I’ve created a disclosure decision checklist to help you think through these questions privately and deliberately. The checklist is linked below and also available on the blog.
Download the companion checklist:
https://www.andreatoolecoach.com/s/ADHD-disclosure-decision-checklist.pdf
Blog post:
When, why, and how to talk about your ADHD https://www.andreatoolecoach.com/blog/when-why-and-how-to-talk-about-your-adhd
In the next episode, we’ll take this further and look at disclosure in specific professional and relational contexts, where timing, language, and power dynamics play an even bigger role.
Contact for questions or comments:
https://www.andreatoolecoach.com/contact